Sunday, August 23, 2015

Absense Makes the Heart........

SING!!!!  Yeah...that's right.  Retirement 24/7/365 is not all it's cracked up to be.  Can I get an "amen"?  

So....BH is going to son's for the day.  They're going to chop wood (but it's raining now, and supposed to all day).  They'll probably sit and yammer all day.  I gave him a warning:  "DO NOT come home by noon!!"

We spend a LOT of time together.  Every day.  Every hour.  The only time I have to myself is when I get up in the morning at 4am till he rolls out of bed at 6 - 6:30.  Sometimes he's up at 5am....don't get me started.

I love him dearly!  Don't know what I'd do without him.  We've been together for 28 years...married for 26.  But COME ON!  It didn't used to be so bad....when I was working.  But then I retired.  Now I'm just tired.  Badabing, badaboom.  (old joke).

I do manage to get out with our daughter, taking her grocery shopping, to appointments and occasionally, we have a day out together.  One time, he suggested that he go grocery shopping with us so he can pack the bags (our grocery stores don't do that for whatever reason) and carry them.  Aaarrggghhhh......NO....that's ok; it's not that bad; I can manage.  Whew...escaped that one.

The poor thing.....he used to bowl every Thursday night.  But we had 2 teenage sons at home then.   He used to play softball every Monday night; quit that at 65 and became an Umpire.  That was great!!  He was gone 2 nights a week, just about every weekend....for.....hours!!  He gave it up at 69 years of age. Fishing in the summer, too.  Just about everyday he would be gone...from 5am till sometimes 5pm or later. 

But health problems started rearing their ugly heads.  Neuropathy in his legs and hands.  He can't run any more and his hands shake so bad, it's difficult to manage fine motor skills.  No more fishing.   OMG!  I just realized....I sound like a real Bitch!!  Complaining about him being home all the time.  Well.....I feel like a Bitch today.  Sorry. plan is to clean the house today.  But I'm trying to talk myself out of it.  I haven't won yet.  Who wants to waste time cleaning house when you have the whole day to do whatever.....just relish the day.

Well, we're taking a trip back east in a week and change.  Visiting family.  Haven't been back there in 5 years.  It'll be fun.  Just the 2 of us.  Together.  24/7.  Again.  I'm thankful for small blessings.  No. Really. 



Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybe said...

You are writing about my life also. Hubby retired three months ago and it has not been easy. Constant togetherness is difficult. I sleep longer in the morning now just to get some time alone. When we were young and had four children, he was always traveling to wonderful places for his job. When home, he played tennis or ran. I could have used him around more then to help me. Now he is going through a big life change and is out of sorts. I need him to find something to do and something to get him out of the house that will give him a sense of purpose and joy. Once he does that, we will do better.
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Linda said...

LOL, Arleen! husband's only hobbies now are logging, chopping and stacking wood through the winter and cutting grass in the summer. He has no interest in anything else. Almost makes us want to go back to work just to get away! Not! Sure hope your hubby finds something to interest him soon. Good luck....stay calm.